Are you done “losing” in dating relationships? I sure am. I’ve recently started dating, and I’m certain this relationship is going to be a “win.” How can I be so sure?
Not because I know for certain I’m going to marry this guy. Of course, that’s the desired outcome. But marriage isn’t the goal.
If marriage is the goal of dating, then any dating relationship that doesn’t end in marriage is a failure. But if the goal of dating is learning to love another, then even if that relationship doesn’t end in marriage, it will have been worth it. I mean, come on, who doesn’t need to grow in love?!
“Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God” (1 John 4:7).
So I’m having a little competition with my boyfriend, Trevor. We’re taking Romans 12:10 seriously. You might call it our north star:
“Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.”
See, the goal in singleness and the goal in marriage isn’t as different as we make it out to be. The goal is learning to love another flawed human being with Christ’s unconditional love.
You know what’s really cool? As I practice loving my boyfriend well, I see that same pattern seeping into other relationships. As I seek to “outdo him in showing honor,” I find myself doing the same in other relationships. Pretty sweet, huh?
How about you? If you’re dating (or have dated or hope to date someday) what do you think the goal is? How can you make sure you never lose again in a dating relationship—even when marriage isn’t a guarantee?
I’ve adapted this post from its original at: “How to Never Lose Again in a Dating Relationship.”