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Should I Leave My Unbelieving Husband?

Should I Leave My Unbelieving Husband?

Should I leave my unbelieving husband?

“Marriage is supposed to be two-as-one,” she wrote me after leaving her unbelieving husband. “But that’s not how it was for us; We were not one.”

This woman had returned to the Lord while still married, but her husband persisted in unbelief. Her statement raises an important question: Should you leave your unbelieving husband? Does oneness in marriage require that both you and your husband love Jesus? Attend church? Pray together? More

You Hardly Looked at Each Other

You Hardly Looked at Each Other

“You hardly looked at each other all week,” she observed of me and Trevor after six short days of life with us. (It was 2019, and we’d invited her to live with us as long as she needed. She’d finally filed for a year-long restraining order on her husband after thirty-four years of physical, verbal, and mental abuse.) When we opened our home to her, we invited her to freely speak into our lives about whatever she observed in our parenting or our marriage—nothing was off-limits.  More

Have You Left Father and Mother?

Have You Left Father and Mother?

I left father and mother at nineteen: Not for a husband, but for an education in Chicago. So when I moved to New York well over a decade later to marry Trevor, I was certain I had God’s command down pat. “Leave father and mother”? Check. After living on my own for thirteen years, what else could I possibly need to leave?  More

Divorce Is Not Loving, Christian Celebrity

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I saw it again this morning on social media: Another “Christian celebrity” spinning their divorce announcement as a loving deed inspired by altruistic motivation for their “dear friend.” I don’t buy it. Divorce is not altruistic (“unselfishly concerned for or devoted to the welfare of [your spouse]).” This loving facade is nothing less than a lie straight from the pit of hell.  More